Positively happy

Is the pursuit of happiness reasonable? What will we find in it? Can we gamify the experience we call life? If we cannot pursue happiness, what is the next best thing? Is it money, experience, wisdom, or something entirely different? Today I selected many different links, not all of them working. See if you like …

The Epicurean way

The opposite of the stoic way is the Epicurean way. It is an equally powerful and still relevant position. Rather than focusing on doing the right thing in face of adversity, it may be easier to avoid unpleasant situations. Sure, this requires more knowledge and creativity, but I think it is totally worth the effort. …

Drafting the story of your life

At 45  I finally started to write my autobiography. Is it reasonable? What questions I should ask myself? What can you learn from me? More reading here, here, here, here, and here. Dante When Dante Alighieri wrote his books, he was 35 years old. The first section, the Inferno begins with the words “Midway upon the …

MindfulMess and mindfulness

The meaning of mindfulness

A stupid typo can lead to many complex thoughts. Here are want to explore the environmental effects on mindfulness. Should spiritual people look like hippies, monks, or samurais? How does a mess affect our thoughts? Which interferences are welcome and which should be avoided? I want to describe three distinct and different forms of mindfulness …

MindfulMess and creativity

Mad scientist

I have my fair share of typos. When you read fast and write fast, typos happen. Some typos are really stupid. Others make you think… This is so-called “out of the box creativity”. We stumble upon something cool by mistake but are mindful enough to use it. I wrote MindfulMess instead of mindfulness, and this …

Can we really understand our future self?

One of the visualization exercises we promote is talking to your “future self”. We discuss the most pressing subjects with the person we hope to become one day. This is not the person we eventually become! Today’s reading selection is here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and here. Best possible future self I quote the …

What mummified monks can tell about our values

The body of Loung Por Ruam in Thailand

What do we want in life? Can a dead body be more successful than a living man? Are our values strange or maybe perverted? It is tempting to move very fast in the wrong direction. This is the epitome of success without happiness or livelihood. Who are the mummified monks? One of the strangest things …

101 questions to ask yourself

Asking questions is the basic and most effective tool of creativity, productivity, and happiness. When we question ourselves, we may find our true purpose. What questions should we ask? Find some examples below. For more reading see here, here, here, here, here, and here. Annoying 101 lists To be honest the 101 lists slightly annoy me. …

Managing personal insecurity

The ruling paradigm claims that we should rely on our strengths to manage personal insecurity. All of us have doubts and all of us have strengths. Both are very easy to identify. If it was easy and beneficial to manage insecurities by relying on strengths, everyone would do that by now. Somehow this is not …

Personality awareness

One of the basic skills of emotional intelligence is understanding yourself: personality, motives, and emotions. This is one of the possible steps to harness the things that make us special: honesty, authenticity, compassion. Unfortunately, no school teaches this particular skill. Even meditation usually focuses on transcending self rather than leveraging it. Let us think about …