Happiness and illusion of control

Happiness is the holy grail of many people on the path of self-improvement. It is probably the hardest of all goals and the progress to it is counterintuitive. There are many things that do not make us happy, despite our highest hopes. Maybe it is beneficial to talk about them. For more reading, I refer …

Groundhog Day or Memory Errors

Two people can see the same movie or read the same book and come out with a very different memory of what they saw. Some people have unique perspectives that are surprisingly fresh and unexpected. In this guest article, Daniel Dishman shares a unique perspective on the classical movie “Groundhod Day”.   Who doesn’t like …

Unreasonable expectations and struggling families

Our unreasonable expectations quite often do not allow us to be successful and happy. We can see it in many areas of life. Our children are the clearest mirror of our expectations and strange ways they are shaping the reality. Managing expectations is definitely something any responsible adult should strive to master. You can read …

Rethink your emotions

As the summer is about to end, it may be a good time to get the last moments of the summer vacation and sun and prepare for the next round of learning. For many people, this is an emotional time combining anxiety, anticipation, and pleasure. Many people use the vacation to shake off the stress …

Learning with feelings

Usually, when we discuss learning we address anything but feelings. This can be very convenient if our feelings are tuned with what we learned.  When our feelings are in the way of what we learn, we try to activate the willpower and concentrate on more intellectual and technical aspects of learning. Sometimes we would like …

Learning that shapes us

While there is some correlation between the success at school and success in life, this correlation is weak. Even the connection between school grades and research success is not always clear. We can find ourselves in changing roles as a student, a researcher, and a teacher with very different requirements at each stage of our career.  …

Magical thinking and its healing powers

The human mind is strange in many wonderful ways. One of the strangest properties of our mind is the ability to heal the body. We can change the reality by telling a story or visualizing a metaphor. In this article, I try to question the science and the apparent magic of healing. You can further …

Focus on your work and get into flow

Normal people hate working. We are paid to do something that benefits other people rather than doing something we enjoy. One of the main incentives for people in their thirties and forties to work is simply escaping the home. Kids, cleaning and other daily activities can be even less fun than working. Yet, people who …

How smart people fight compensate negative self image

Not all of us have a positive perception of ourselves. Maybe this is one of the best motivations to take classes in self-improvement. Fortunately, it seems that high IQ can balance off some disadvantages we may have. This is a complex subject, and it certainly deserves several articles on this blog. You can find more …

Ditch control to find resilience and motivation

Resilience and motivation are closely connected. When we lose resilience, we get stressed and negative, with lower energy and motivation. Being highly motivated, we recruit people around us to help us, we make sure our body is up for the challenge, we feel pleasure and purpose in what we do. I suggest reading further here, here, …